Wednesday, December 30, 2009

What To Do?

I don't do well when I have to say goodbye to my family. I realize how much I love them and have fun with them. And it's so hard for me to live so far away from them. Especially living here in Utah...it just seems like everyone has family around and they don't have time for friends. I even heard someone say that they'd rather spend time with their sisters than with friends. What about us that really needs friends because we don't have sisters that live within 100+ miles of us? I know that I need to be grateful for the time that I do get to spend with them but that doesn't make it easier for me. So since Sunday I've been down in the dumps. So what did I do? I spent yesterday in my PJs. I read and took a nap. It was just what I needed. Then Steve took me out for dinner and it was nice to get out of the house. Today I'm feeling much better. I realize that it's ok to have bad days. It's ok to have days that I stay in my jammies ALL day long and do nothing. It's what I need every once in a while. So if you are reading this wondering what to do about a loved one who does the same things at times I say this...don't worry!! Don't take it personally. Don't get mad at them it will just make it worse. I am still trying to tell my husband this. He takes my down times too personally and it's hard. So just let us be and let us have our down days without having to explain why!!

5 comments:

  1. I really know what you mean about not having family near by. I only have 1 brother that lives within an hour of me and everyone else on both sides lives on either coast or overseas. Luckily, I have found a few friends at church that are willing to walk with me, when we are good, about 2-3 times a week. I think it is a great outlet for talking and the plus is it is exercise. We have taken a break for the holidays, but plan on starting up again next week. There are people out there willing to have a little friend time too, so don't give up hope!

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  2. I am so grateful for the friends that I have. I have some amazing friends. Love you guys!

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  3. Hey you, unfortunately I can completely relate. We have NO family around and I only have a few friends here so things get really hard sometimes. I agree that some days we just need to take it moment by moment and sometimes PJ's just help you feel warm inside. Love you and miss you

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  4. I know exactly how you feel. Except it's worse for me now living so near all my in-laws, they are the worse people to be around. It makes me miss the peace and quiet I had in Utah even though I was far from my family.

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  5. I needed to read this today.. Thank you! I wish Matthew could read this and understand its not him... Changes are hard.. Being away from ALL your friends & Family & having to start over from scratch is a great thing.. But it is hard! & no matter how happy you are or think you are.. depression sinks in..

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